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Denizens, it’s now been 10 long years since I made what is probably the Mistake Of My Life&#153 and married that doublewide fatassed trollop in East Texas.

But this post isn’t for you guys, it’s for her.&#160 Therefore, feel free to bypass this and go straight to the PFW post below.

Now.&#160 Stephanie Dawn Stewart Crager – front & center, bitch.

Happy anniversary, bimbo.&#160 Of sorts, that is.&#160 Lemme tell you a bit about what you gave up when you snatched up my son and high-tailed it to that fortified bunker in Sulphur Springs, TX.

I’m now making somewhere in the neigborhood of $50 large per year, doing what I love doing (and, incidentally, something at which I’m still&#160 better than you.&#160 Not bad for someone whom you thought was “simi-worthless”, huh?)&#160 Had you at least tried&#160 to gut it out at the Dallas ISD – well, you still might not have your job anymore, but then again, maybe you would.

We’d now be in the six-figure income bracket.&#160 We’d be financially free, or at least close to it (we’d probably still be paying on that massive Mastercard of yours, but we’d at least have a fighting chance).

Had we stayed in our little cottage in Forney, it would have most, if not all, the problems with it fixed by now – new A/C, new carpet, new fencing, new weatherstripping, new insulation, an exhaust fan in the attic, and a helluva lot lower electricity bills than what we’d had.

We’d’ve done some remodeling of the kitchen – which is what the guys who bought the house wound up doing (I got to see it – they did a pretty good job).&#160 New paint, a new column on the front porch, maybe some Pergo&#169 in the living room with some sort of rug, maybe even a fireplace when we remodeled.

You’d have gotten a real chance to have that garden of yours, if you’d have wanted it.&#160 Perhaps we could even have done a pool or hot tub out in the back.

Or we could have moved to another house which would have been far nicer.&#160 Four bedrooms, garden tub, two-car garage, a lot closer to everything that meant anything to us and our boy.

And who knows?&#160 Maybe Skip would have wanted a brother or sister to have fun playing with.&#160 That might have been possible, too.

But no.&#160 Not only no, but hell, no.&#160 Because your god was always your ass, and because you weren’t willing to work to make yourself a halfway-decent teacher, you quit your job at DISD, scooped up my boy and left.&#160 You quit&#160 on the marriage, Steffi – just like you’ve quit on pretty much everything else you ever attempted.

That’s why you’re a failure, Your Doublewideness.&#160 You never see things through to completion – at least, not the worthwhile things.&#160 It’s why, save you doing a 180 personally, you’ll never amount to all that much.

In a way, I almost feel sorry for you.&#160 You could’ve been part of something special.&#160 You could’ve been&#160 someone special.

But every time I start to feel like that, I remember what you did to me, and what you did to my boy by denying him a relationship with his father – and I lie down until the feeling goes away.

Eff ewe, Steffie, you pathetic loser.

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8 responses to “An anniversary message for my ex”

1. HDD says:

   November 21, 2008 at 7:54 pm

   Dude, let it go. The only person you’re influencing is you.

   Anger is a piss-poor substitute for class and dignity, my friend.

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2. RobertHuntingdon says:

   November 21, 2008 at 8:02 pm

   HDD, surely you know better… class and dignity??? from SPATS?!?!?!?

   🙂

   RH

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3. David Hartung says:

   November 22, 2008 at 6:34 am

   “Anger is a piss-poor substitute for class and dignity, my friend.”

   While I agree wholeheartedly, I am not certain that I would be any less bitter. Remember, this woman has denied our good friend any contact with his son.

   Darth, you remain in my prayers.

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4. HDD says:

   November 22, 2008 at 8:13 am

   While I agree wholeheartedly, I am not certain that I would be any less bitter. Remember, this woman has denied our good friend any contact with his son.

   Self-inflicted wound. Once he signed away his parental rights, he allowed her to do what she’s doing. Once his signature (which was not obtained by coercion, extortion, or force…) was on that document, she became legally, ethically, and morally entitled to exclude Darth from Skip’s life. Getting bad advice is one thing. Following bad advice is a whole different creature.

   I am sympathetic, believe me. But, I dwell over here in the Realm of Reality, and have a moral obligation to try and provide GOOD advice, even if it won’t be followed, or even appreciated. I’d rather lose a friendship, than lose a friend.

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5. Darth Venomous says:

   November 22, 2008 at 9:42 am

   Once his signature (which was not obtained by coercion, extortion, or force…)

   And there’s where you’re not quite correct, my friend.

   She did&#160 have a hammer to use against me, and per my attorney, she was preparing at that moment to use it:&#160 The hammer of non-payment of child support, which could have – and, given the good ol’ boy network in place up there (thanks to my previous excuse-for-an-attorney), would have – landed me in jail.

   The moronette-of-a-judge up there was supposed to have contacted my then-employer to set up garnishment.

   She never did.&#160 Which meant that nothing ever got garnished.&#160 Which means that nothing ever got paid.

   And she was going to counter my charges against her of interfering with visitation with that charge of non-payment.

   That was Steffi’s plan all along:&#160 Get my boy out of my life, and try to ruin me in the process.&#160 All because I caught her bad-mouthing me to a coven of feminazi bitches.

   So to say there was no coercion…well, not so much.

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6. HDD says:

   November 22, 2008 at 10:10 am

   NO ONE FORCED YOU TO SIGN AWAY YOUR RIGHTS!

   You got bad advice from your lawyer, that is true. But, YOU THEN FOLLOWED THAT BAD ADVICE!

   Failure to pay child support placed you in that position. If you had paid your child support, you wouldn’t have been in that position. Legally, you were required to pay it. Legally, she was required to allow visitation. Those are, legally, two separate entities. Failure to pay child support does not allow her to deny visitation, and failure to allow visitation does not allow failure to pay child support. If your lawyer told you otherwise, he was an idiot. If you followed that advice, you followed the advice of an idiot, which NEVER ends well.

   It was still a self-inflicted wound. If you had kept current on your child support, you wouldn’t have been in the position to have to sign your parental rights away in order to avoid paying your legally obligated payments. YOU are legally obligated to ensure the payments are made, not the judge, not your employer, not some random bystander off the streets. When you noticed your payments weren’t being deducted from your check (it is technically not a garnishment, but a deduction), you should have set aside the money necessary to make the payments out of each check. Did you think that they wouldn’t notice you weren’t making payments?!

   You got bad advice, and you followed that bad advice. Stephanie may be the world’s biggest bitch, for all I know. I don’t know her. BUT, your situation is self-inflicted, because there were multiple opportunities to avoid it. You took none of them. If you are going to be angry at anyone, be angry at yourself, because you volunteered for it. Don’t bitch about self-inflicted misery. You caused it, you could have stopped it.

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7. David Hartung says:

   November 23, 2008 at 4:48 am

   “You got bad advice, and you followed that bad advice. Stephanie may be the world’s biggest bitch, for all I know. I don’t know her. BUT, your situation is self-inflicted, because there were multiple opportunities to avoid it. You took none of them. If you are going to be angry at anyone, be angry at yourself, because you volunteered for it. Don’t bitch about self-inflicted misery. You caused it, you could have stopped it.”

   Anyone who has been through the breakup of a marriage is well aware that there is fault on both sides. Spats has never tried to deny his responsibility in the issue with his son. His mistakes still do not justify the actions of his ex-wife, unless he was abusing her or the boy.

   I have stated repeatedly, and fully believe, that eventually the actions of Spat’s ex-wife will come back to bite her. Eventually the Geoff will be old enough to understand that his mother is actively preventing contact wit his father. When that happens, things will likely get very intense around mom and granddad.

   I would not wish to be in their shoes.

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8. David Hartung says:

   November 23, 2008 at 4:51 am

   One more copmment:

   Spats/Darth,
   If your son has inherited the same sort vocal hardheadedness that his dad seems to have been blessed with, he will eventually come seeking you.

   Be patient my friend.

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